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The Importance of Family and Avoiding Offenses

1. The Importance of Family

Psalm 127 “Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep. Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”

  • “Unless the Lord builds the house…” It’s easy to get so focused on providing that you forget who the provider is
  • “eating the bread of anxious toil” We can get so focused on building the temporary (house, car, possessions, etc.) that we lose sight of building the things that will last (kingdom, marriage, children, etc.)
  • Jesus always focused on people and relationships, but we tend to focus on things
  • “Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth” How often do we think of children as a weapon for warriors?
  • Children should be seen as blessings, not burdens
  • The responsibility of raising children is just as much the husband’s as it is the wife’s

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

  • “Investing in your family won’t put you behind. God will honor you for blessing your family and children.”
  • An investment is something that provides a return or a gain

2. Avoiding Offenses

Matthew 18:21-22 “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’”

  • The opinion of you that matters most is God’s
  • Be careful of taking on or giving an offense to your spouse
  • We usually look to people faster than we look to God
  • I am not entitled to anything
  • You choose to either get angry at the people/situation or learn from it
  • The people you surround yourself with can make or break you
  • It’s hard to recognize offenses because they usually happen over time

Warning signs of holding onto an offense:

  • You often think thoughts like, “Why is this happening to me?” or “How could I have been overlooked?”
  • Your mind dwells on negative thoughts much more than positive ones
  • When a situation arises you look to people to give you answers much more then you look to God, or you completely isolate yourself
  • Instead of asking what you can learn in this time you blame others
  • You begin to ask questions of God like, “How could You do this to me?” or “Why aren’t You working in my favor?”
  • People around you try to say things to warn you, but you just brush them off
  • You let your emotions begin to control you more and more